Orgasm 101
16/12/2007
“Did you come?” is a phrase I often hear. What’s surprising, is that it is not just the young ones who ask this question, the older ones are also fond of it. What’s funny, is that these selfsame men boast of their virility, and how well they know a woman’s body… Surely if they’re such experts on my body, they should know what an orgasm feels like? And surely they should be able to tell if I’m faking (which I do, on a fairly regular basis)?
I have to admit: I’m pretty gatvol of these men’s questions and their expectations. Is it really such a sin for a woman in her early 20s if she’s never had an orgasm before? Does Science not prove over and over again that most women reach climax only in their later years?
Frankly, if I hear that phrase once more (and I’m pretty sure I will), I will kick him in his n*ts. What gets me is not the question itself, for I can understand if it is your first time with a girl and you don’t know how her body reacts to an orgasm… That’s fine. But why place such undue pressure on the poor girl to perform? Do you really need her orgasm to prove your prowess as a man? Why is it such a big deal?
Sure, you want to please me/her. That’s great. But please don’t make me feel obliged to come, cause then I’ll tense up even more and will be unable to. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, well, at least we can have some fun trying to make it happen, right?
I am You 
17/12/2007 at 4:29 am
This is the saddest thing I have ever read. No on second thoughts maybe the second saddest.
17/12/2007 at 2:52 pm
What should matter, is not the actual orgasm, though it’s sweet if a guy tries. What matters more is the enjoyment that the process gives.
Perhaps it’s a case of “you can’t miss what you don’t know”.
18/12/2007 at 7:10 am
The orgasm is not neccessary every time, sometimes a quickie is far more satisfying, but never to have had an orgasm is tragic.
May I suggest you visit your local toy shop and gain a vibrator. In my marriage we make regular use of these gadgets to help my wife achieve orgasm.
Trying is one thing, never achieving is another.
22/12/2007 at 6:59 am
I have a vibrator. It does nothing for me. Guy, some women just struggle to achieve an orgasm. There are many of us out there.
We try and we try and we get frustrated and our men get frustrated and it wrecks our relationships. This is in part what caused tension between me and Toby.
Gareth had to ask me (after a couple of months of us having sex) if I orgasm when we’re having sex. He’s 31 years old!
22/12/2007 at 7:50 pm
Let’s you and me be quite honest for a moment. Men are pigs – they think they have the power to fell full armies, or soothe savage beasts, but really all we are are silly, dimwitted fools.
The act of sex, or lovemaking isn’t about orgasm – I’ve had sex plenty of times and often neither of us has orgasmed – or just she or just I have. It’s about the joining of two souls – an expression of love and commitment.
I don’t care for 30 seconds of pleasure as the build up, release and aftershocks happen, I care to see love in her eyes and hear her panting breath whispering “I love you.”
So Guy, how about you take your utterly short-sighted, typical male attitude, check it in at the door, and be perceptive about what a woman really wants, instead of what you THINK you can deliver.